I am so ready to be done with this trope that women who choose parenting, birth their babies, breastfeed, mother, etc. are doing anti-feminist work. That they are actively limiting the options of other women. That they are going backwards. Instead, choosing to birth your babies at home or without medical interventions, seeing the mother and fetus and then mother and baby as a single unit, and, Goddess-forbid, breastfeeding are all actively feminist choices that often take a lot of guts and determination to pull off. But I don’t say it nearly as well as the authors I linked to above. So go read their posts about it all.