Baby-wearing Co-sleeping Breast-feeding Sex

Did you see this absolutely fabulous post by Arwyn over at Raising My Boychick in response to this inflammatory article by Erica Jong? Did you? Because it is brilliant and made of awesome. Arwyn is always a fantastic writer, but here she is on-fire in all the right ways:

I don’t know what issues you have with your daughter, or why you think extrapolating from (your understanding of) her to every other woman in her generation is such a brilliant idea, but when you say things like:

Better to give up men and sleep with one’s children. Better to wear one’s baby in a man-distancing sling and breast-feed at all hours so your mate knows your breasts don’t belong to him. Our current orgy of multiple maternity does indeed leave little room for sexuality. With children in your bed, is there any space for sexual passion?

I truly wonder what universe you’re living in, or why you think you understand my life and my motivations so well, when you are so very wrong.

And I wonder what form of feminism you’re practicing when you blame women — mothers, women with children, women who already have placed on us additional burdens and double binds galore — for this “backlash against sex” you hypothesize, and never investigate what societal pressures might exist that create the situation (you think you see), give only the briefest, un-nouned mentions of forces other than (your daughter’s) choices of which you disapprove.

See what I mean? In this single post, she blows up misconceptions left and right, reclaiming cultural space for homebirthing, babywearing, co-sleeping, attachment parenting, extended breastfeeding, and complicated as heck families everywhere.

Go read the whole beautiful, kick-ass post here.


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